What You Call Discomfort… Is Actually Expansion

Hello, my beautiful friend. So I recently embarked on a really deep, intense transformational journey, and as I was driving to this retreat experience, I noticed that this huge fear of discomfort was coming up for me. There was a lot of fear coming up, a lot of fear and nerves. And when I really slowed down to attune to what is this fear about, actually, what am I really scared of? Because oftentimes when something rises that's ready to be cleared, especially around fear, our mind will very quickly assign, oh, the fears about this or that. But when you really slow down, there's often something deeper there. So I was doing this, I was getting curious, what am I really scared of? And I was kind of going through the list of like, okay, well I'm not afraid of this happening and I'm not afraid of that happening. And when I dropped into the spaces beneath the surface, I realized that what I was so afraid of was the discomfort I knew I was going to experience.

And this has been such a consistent theme in my life, journey, one that I have been very aware of over the last seven to 10 years. And I realized I was really just scared and nervous of feeling uncomfortable. And so I want to share with you the message that came through from my guides, because as I was driving, I turned off the music. I was creating the space to really be present with what was rising. And when I realized it was this, I could just feel this, this message wanting to come through from my guides that I needed to hear. And receiving this message enabled me to move through the experience in a way that allowed me to soften into the discomfort, to look at the discomfort differently. Like in the past, every time that discomfort would rise, I would want to tense against it.

I would want to numb it or ignore it or run from it, or just tense against it. And if I really slowed down in those moments, I would probably notice that my body was like tensing and tightening just doing everything I could to avoid it, or my mind would be thinking all of these thoughts and trying to assign meaning to things in such a way that would lessen the discomfort rather than just softening into it. And so this message that I received completely shifted how I felt about the discomfort I knew I was going to experience. It completely shifted how I moved through the discomfort and the openness that I felt to being uncomfortable. So I want to share it with you as a gift, as an offering. If you like me, experienced discomfort on this human journey and find yourself wanting to tense against the discomfort, wanting to turn away, to run from it, to numb it, to push it down, you're not alone. I think it's an incredibly normal part of the human experience. And I want to offer this message to you, just this new perspective. Perhaps it will create a little softness for you as you lean into the discomfort that arises for you as well.

What you call discomfort, what you label as discomfort is really expansion. You see, you humans have done a beautiful thing of noticing energy that moves through the body and giving it a name. And you do this for all sorts of emotions. Fear, shame, guilt, sadness, joy, elation, happiness, discomfort. But what you call discomfort is the energy of expansion moving through your body. And it is uncomfortable because you are resisting it, because you're pushing against the expansion that is wanting to flow through you. We want to challenge you to recall a single time in the past when you felt incredibly uncomfortable, where you did not move through that experience and come out the other side as a more expansive, whole, confident, empowered version of yourself. And we challenge you because we believe you won't find one. Because truly the energy of discomfort as it moves through your body is the energy that expands worlds.

It is the energy of expansion. It is expansion, moving through you trying to guide you into a greater space of expansion within yourself and with yourself. And when you push against it, when you try to numb it or push it down, it becomes uncomfortable. So we want to invite you the next time you feel uncomfortable, notice how immediately your awareness shifts up into the mind. And you begin to label it like, oh, this feels so uncomfortable. And you begin to talk through and think through why this is uncomfortable and why it may be a good thing or why it may be a bad thing or why it's a thing at all that you feel uncomfortable. And instead, we want to invite you to drop below the mind, to drop below the noise, the stories, the thoughts to drop even below the labeling of this feeling as uncomfortable.

Instead of thinking or saying, I feel so uncomfortable right now, drop into your body. Notice name the sensations. What do you really feel in your body? And imagine softening like butter into that energy. Imagine it like a wave of energy flowing from the bottoms of your feet through your body, up through the top of your head. And imagine creating space for that wave of energy to move through you. You see, as you expand, you step into, you embody a more whole, more true version of who you are. And you resist this because in embodying a more whole true version of who you are, there is a grief, a sense of loss, of who you once were. And that can bring up fear. It can bring up lots of energy that we have labeled as different emotions, and yet the discomfort, the expansion our loves is guiding you home to yourself, that feeling of discomfort. We want to invite you to name differently moving forward. When you find yourself thinking, you're feeling, Ooh, this feels uncomfortable, or, Ooh, I feel so uncomfortable, could you instead shift your words to say, Ooh, wow, I am experiencing a lot of expansion right now. Wow, this expansion feels intense right now. There's a lot of expansion moving through me right now. And notice the difference that makes in your experience.

You are meant to expand. You are always expanding. And when you learn how to soften into and surrender to that expansion, that expansion becomes a lot more easeful.